Love in a Lifetime

His life

From Paraguay, and back, and home

The spine of a long life in a handful of years — and the one decision, made twice, that everything else turns on.

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Twenty at his first crossing north, back for Nettie in ’68, home to Canada for good in ’69.

1945

A boy in the colony

Born on the twenty-fifth of June in the Menno Colony, Paraguay — a Mennonite settlement carved out of the dry bush, where the holidays were kept the old way and a man made his living off the ground.

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1964

The word he wanted

Over the three-day Christmas holiday he bicycles out to the Dueck farm at Rosenthal, walks Nettie home in the evening, and falls in love on the road between the two farms. “Are you coming back on the weekend?” she asks. That was the word he wanted.

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1966

Five thousand miles north

At twenty he is loaded onto a plane and carried to Canada with his family, leaving Nettie behind in Paraguay. He hands his wages to his parents to pay off the passage. The letters between them dwindle, and then stop.

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1968

He goes back for her

Two years and two months on, out of work and unwilling to let it end, he borrows fifteen hundred dollars he doesn’t have and flies back to Paraguay to find out if Nettie is still free.

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Oct 1968

Married at Rosenthal

Three weeks of evenings together, and they marry that October in Paraguay. What matters, he says, is not the wedding — it’s everything that comes after.

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1969

Home to Canada, together

In February they land in Toronto and begin their life in Canada for good. The rest — the framing career, the houses, the children and grandchildren, more than half a century of marriage — follows from that road at Rosenthal.

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